The Spencer Hamilton Blog

As I've discovered the childfree community I've decided to look at some articles geared toward being "anti childfree" to get a glimpse into what they think as well as how the discussion tends to be framed. I came away with some things I found problematic about these anti childfree articles Having a child doesn't guarantee that your  family will visit you when you're in a nursing home at times other than Thanksgiving and Christmas e  1.  They zoom out focusing on society, not inward about personal choice  I t is MY decision whether to have a child or not. Society doesn’t get to make that decision for me. Society won’t be there for the 2am bottle feedings, Society won’t relieve a tired Mom when she’s burned out. SOCIETY won’t take my husband out on a date when we get tired of parenting and just want to be ourselves. SOCIETY won’t babysit for me, so why does SOCIETY get to pressure me into having a child because they’re falling below replacement rate. There are...

I am a young gay black man who had watched a parody of a young man coming out to his Mother the parody is here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HVAtVil3oWo you can pretty much tell it’s a parody especially given the wording that the ‘mother’ uses. However, the reality is that many parents who are religious may try to convince their child that the devil is in them or that gay people are horrible and need to be changed. But what is coming out about? Why is it necessary for those in our lives as gay people to know that we’re gay? What is all that about? Personally, I have always thought that one thing in any relationship that is central is honesty. I remember watching Mambo Italiano and hearing him explain that he wanted to tell his parents because he wanted them to know the real him. One person said to me: Now that I know you’re gay I can get to know who you are fully. It is that spirit which makes coming out so necessary for many people, we don’t desire—most of us to tell...