The Spencer Hamilton Blog

Movies and TV have a way of revealing things to us about ourselves. I remember knowing I was gay at an early age and media helped confirm that over the years.  I came of age in the 1990s/2000s so of course some of these are dated in their portrayal of queer characters but I can't deny the impression they made on me. I'll share a few below and why, it ranges from individuals, movies and TV.  Trick (1999) What I like about this movie is that it's a romantic comedy at its heart, no drama, HIV, gay bashing etc. But what really set my gay heart aflutter was Gabriel. In this film, Mark and Gabriel look for a place to mess around for the night. But you only need to take one look at JP Pitoc to realize why I was aflutter when he was on screen. I remember seeing a clip or two of this movie when I was younger  This was the first time I'd ever seen the male gaze aimed at another man. For once, I--me--a gay man was looking at someone appealing to ME instead of having to fake it ove...

John Sibiliy as Zephyr Zephyr is our Brian character. He grew up in a working class family that had a lot of trouble. His commitment issues are on display as he goes from trick to trick and puts forth a no nonsense attitude. He is up for Partner at his Ad firm and wants the world. Why this actor? Because he's actually better looking than Gale Harold, he isn't some androgynous guy. In my view, he's masculine and can project a subtle strength that Harold did without coming off as douchey Brandon Kneefel as Michael In this iteration Michael would be in a profession where he makes a lot of money but hates because he is paying off Debbie's mortgage behind her back, and his own. I would keep Debbie and Vic and the family connection because it would be great to see that reimagined and Debbie recast would be Rosie Perez. Michael has the same characteristics we love about him except that he's not as whiny as he was in the original series. That's replace...

Hey!!! It’s the Spencer Hamilton Blog and you are in for a treat!!! I am excited that ENDA has passed the Senate 64-32. I guess the Democrats have grown a pair and said that this is the time to do the work and give the House Republicans a chance to redeem themselves by passing it—I remember the VAWA fight and it was a LONG LONG time that it was waiting before it was passed. Same with immigration reform but of course we have to push the Republicans on that as well as Democrats to continue making noise on the bill   ENDA has been long debated and of course the religious right has been spreading nothing but lies about the bill saying that somehow you will have to hire John and call him Jane and what kind of example will that set for kids, they use graphics like this to bred a fear in people that somehow it will be a special right that will be forced on them if they can’t fire gay people just because they’re gay. It has become a gleeful thing when gay and lesbian bisexual a...

After the trial and acquittal of George Zimmerman, there was a juror that has made splashes in the media. She is only known as B37 and her jury selection video is here:   ( http://www.slate.com/articles/news_and_politics/jurisprudence/2013/07/zimmerman_trial_juror_b37_why_did_prosecutors_let_her_on_the_trayvon_martin.html ) There is also now talk of unsupervised visits that she had with family and that could sway her decision by a simple comment. Another thing that makes me leery of her is that she said that even though the Stand Your Ground Law wasn’t given as a defense, they still considered simply: did Zimmerman feel as if his life were in danger? She also said that his history of reporting black men to the police wasn’t looked at in the deliberations and further, she denied that race was even a part of it though George is recorded saying: Those fucking punks they always get away. She also said that Martin was responsible for   his own death and that Zimmerman should co...

This year was a great year for marriage and Democrats: Let's take a look at some of the things that happened during the 2012 Elections:  ME Q1 rejected their new marriage law by a 57-43% margin, by 14 points in 2009. MD like ME and WA passed a Civil Marriage and Religious Freedom Act that was put on the ballot promptly by opponents of marriage equality. Those measures are Q6 and R74 MN in May 2011 needed a simple majority in both chambers of the Legislature (37-27 in the Senate and 70-62 in the House) to pass a constitutional amendment to the people “resolving” the question of gay marriage. Like NC they have a statute that is in place regardless. That statute is being challenged in the Benderson v. Alvarez case and could be overturned. The Catholic Church in MN said that this is why we need Amendment 1 in MN because of the challenged statute. Something of note is Sen Dibble who said I can’t see how anyone could think that my marriage would hurt someone else. Rep...

If Republicans were really Pro Life Companion Video: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PX_KytAMe7Q I’m sick of Pro Life being used to say that a woman doesn’t have the right to her own decisions about her body. They’ve gone through with targeting abortion clinics, killing the doctors, in fact in KS they’re targeting a doctor that didn’t force a 10 year old girl to give birth to her Uncle’s child. They seem to care for the unborn and will ban abortion even in the case of a stillbirth and even if one is medically necessary. Their regard for human life is cruel and they’d let a woman die than have her terminate a pregnancy but I have a bone to pick with Pro Lifers. If you are really pro life Why don’t we see More Spending on Healthcare and Less on Our military, We spend more than our allies and if we cut 10% of our military we could have some mandated relief for schools in urban and poorer areas Give Group Homes expanded programs so that before kids age out of the syst...

Hello All, This is something I hear a lot of whenever I spot a guy, who many times just happens to be white who is very attractive to me. I have to say that there are a lot of attractive guys out there and when I see one I'm usually like "Helllooo...." I don't know why that is, but I just say that. As I go about my day, I'm riding on my bike seeing different people, and it being summer time, all the hotties are coming out. Some people just 'got it' and some people like me had to work hard to get that summer body--I say that the summer body isn't just worked on in the summer. So, back to the topic. I don't know why I happen to be attracted to white men most, I just am. I have heard a lot of people say to me on facebook and other mediums that: You are ashamed of your race because you're dating a white man....I tell you, if I were ashamed of my race, I would manifest it in other ways than 'rejecting the black man' In fact my sister on...

Hello All, I am giving some thoughts on barebacking. Barebacking is simply having sex without condoms. Now, for a straight couple that means a baby  in 9 months, in gay men it means HIV/AIDS, now I know lesbians get it too and straight people get it as well, but the fact is that when guys come out, I believe HIV becomes more of a thought than it would if you were straight. I remember sitting down with Darryl saying: I don't think white guys think about HIV often. He replied: I think about HIV and I'm white, to which I replied: It's because you're gay. Now, I have to admit that sometimes hanging out at a health center, I am paranoid a bit even though I'm careful and get tested regularly. In my relationship we don't use condoms, and have been completely faithful to one another. So, that begs a question that many gay couples ask: When is the time that it is okay to go 'raw' during a relationship. My opinion is this: Use condoms, and when it gets to t...

 In NC, anti gay black pastors and leaders have said simply that because most of the NC State Government believe as they do that marriage is between a man and a woman, that this ideal should be placed in the state's Founding Document. What's ironic is that the SAME ONES proposing this amendment put a voter ID bill on the Governor's desk which was promptly vetoed. this law would've kept the congregations represented away from the polls to vote May 8th on the proposed amendment if enacted immediately. It would've affected so many seniors, out of state students, and low income individuals who don't usually get state or government issue-ID. I've railed against theocratic anti gay Christians who believe that religious laws should be upheld just because they're religious and people have told me: We're not all like that. I am not the one you need to tell that to. Tell it to Tony Perkins and Patrick Wooten the 'Diaper Pastor' the "Prolific...

Hi Everyone, I thought about my first time trying to come out and I really  tried to come out today, and I remember just about every detail of the exchange even though the person I tried to come out to could not. He had a hostile reaction so I said something different. He couldn't recall years later and said: I don't remember. At that time I felt like Cpt. Nero in Star Trek (2009) when he shouts at Cpt. Pike: Don't tell me it didn't happen I saw it happen, don't tell me it didn't happen! Background I was in college, really trying to figure out who I was, I knew I liked guys and I kept feeling that I was a freak or something because of it. I would spend nights praying to be straight, just desperately hoping I would wake up and decide to be straight. I would say that I liked women and some of them I really did, but I realized that when it came right down to it, the emotional connection was there, but not the sexual one. I couldn't have brought myself ...

Spencer Hamilton on Thursday, December 15, 2011 at 7:32am   Last night I had a weird dream, but it wasn’t exactly all that weird. I noticed my Darryl was largely absent from this dream, and some details were also a little weird It all begins when I lived back on Broadway and Hickory Street, in my room I remember going there and having a cat, which weren’t allowed in the building. I remember seeing the cat underwater and thinking that I really miss them.  I was looking at footage of this cat too, while Sia’s Breathe Me was playing (it was used in SFU’s series finale) Next, I was in a house with a woman and two children, I felt I knew them through someone else and I chewed out one of the kids for trying to bully the other one in the bathroom. There was a golden retriever I remember petting and just being happy to have him. The House was pretty big too,  as if it were meant for a family, but I think I was the only one there at the time.  The house I foun...