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Hello Dear Spencer Hamilton Blog Reader…and new visitors So this past weekend I decided to help two lovely women the Lambert-Rudds a lesbian couple whom I affectionately call “The Grandmas” put a roof on their house and it was great. I met so many wonderful people and saw a man named Vince in action. He’s a great taskmaster he knows what he’s doing and it helped that son in law Tom was there too and his know how as well as many others who were able to help us. I have to admit I know little to nothing about roofing and I’m not willing to climb up there, but I must admit a few things were conquered that day. After a bunch of denailing some of the boards I went between a space did some on the roof. I was nervous up there and as I’m a tall guy my center of gravity is a little higher so I made sure I did my best to stay safe. It was a wonderful experience seeing the work being done by all of us—some of whom hadn’t gotten there til about noonish and seeing an old friend Andy in town t...

Hey!!! It’s the Spencer Hamilton Blog and you are in for a treat!!! I am excited that ENDA has passed the Senate 64-32. I guess the Democrats have grown a pair and said that this is the time to do the work and give the House Republicans a chance to redeem themselves by passing it—I remember the VAWA fight and it was a LONG LONG time that it was waiting before it was passed. Same with immigration reform but of course we have to push the Republicans on that as well as Democrats to continue making noise on the bill   ENDA has been long debated and of course the religious right has been spreading nothing but lies about the bill saying that somehow you will have to hire John and call him Jane and what kind of example will that set for kids, they use graphics like this to bred a fear in people that somehow it will be a special right that will be forced on them if they can’t fire gay people just because they’re gay. It has become a gleeful thing when gay and lesbian bisexual a...

After much contention and debate we hear the fate of the San Antonio non-discrimination ordinance.   A few weeks ago Elisa Chan had come under fire for calling gays disgusting and saying they shouldn’t adopt children, she tried to take a traditional road by saying she has nothing against gays but when you’re calling us disgusting and ridiculing our families, that’s like messing with Mama Bear’s cubs. You will lose…BIG. Supporters of the ordinance wore red shirts and the opponents wore blue as they were given one more chance to give an impassioned plea to support or reject the ordinance. Republicans from Greg Abbot who’s running to replace Rick Perry weighed in and is seeing what they can do to counter the measure. This is an issue of life and death for a woman named Dee Villarubia, 67, said she's a former Air Force officer whose landlord at a San Antonio apartment evicted her two years ago because she is gay. "When I say the pledge of allegiance, I say `justice for...

The conflation or supposed correspondence of homosexuality and abortion is ridiculous to say the least. Gay people aren’t the ones having abortions or the reason for them; it’s like blaming gay people for a divorce of a straight couple without mentioning the fact that fiscal matters, adultery, and irreconcilable differences are the issues behind divorce. In fact I have a video, I’ll annotate it here and show you a video I did where NOM actually takes steps to “protect marriage” But this whole conflation of homosexuality and abortion, pedophilia, breakdown of family doesn’t address anything like the income inequality that brings forth crime, the fact that people are out there starving and don’t see the value in education. It is easy to blame gays or other people which is the simple thing instead of looking at the tough things they’ll have to address before the situation can make progress But again to homosexuality and abortion, after the apparent suicide of Jamie Rodemeyer, I was...

The video companion is here: http://youtu.be/1V7sFXar4Ts Remember these guys: Ed Schrock and his voice personal ad? Larry Craig and his wide stance? Ted Haggard’s meth and man ass? George Alan Rekers and his rentboy scandal? What about that Puerto Rican Senator Roberto Arango who was “documenting his weight loss” (I personally wonder what his naked exposed butt hole has to do with weight loss, I guess it could take a cannon and now it could hardly take a cucumber). This was exposed to the media after pushing a constitutional amendment banning marriage? A local example: Craigslist Chris Lee who was looking for trans women to have sex with. Then there’s Ken Mehlman…a man who basically was successful in getting 11 states to put bans in their constitutions, and when you really think about it, this was only the start of the backlash that would begin after Massachusetts Supreme Judicial Court said that a statute was unconstitutional that prohibited gay couples from marrying. In a 4-3 de...

Hey Paul So I remember you doing a video where you said you ran across two gay guys that played Gaga for 3 hours and you’d have been charged with a hate crime for beating up two gay guys but it wasn’t because they were gay, they were just assholes. The fact that you didn’t throw any slurs at them and confronted them over the volume of their music would’ve indicated to me that no malicious intent or hate crime worthiness was involved. I would’ve let you off with a warning and maybe sentenced them to listen to a genre of music they didn’t like for 3 hours…hey…it’s my courtroom. So, do all gays like Lady Gaga? Do all black people speak like slaves? Do all white people smell like wet dog when they come in from the rain? Are all gay guys feminine? Have all gay guys seen Cabaret the play? I have only because some friends invited me and I think one of my friends were in it Do all lesbians wear flannel and act like a lumberjack? Are NO GAY MEN wearing flannel and acting like lumb...

Pride 2013 This year the theme was fearless which I think based on community politics was a very ironic theme. That’s another video for another day. But I’ll note that I can’t count how many times people have complained that their PRIDE center is more of a Center sans the PRIDE and unwilling to actually make a difference or reach out to grassroots LGBT organizations. But let me run you through my PRIDE 2013. Now, PRIDE 2012 was weird because I actually didn’t march in the parade I walked after it because I had to take a nap after I woke up late because I worked overnights. NOT THIS TIME! I decided that I would go and march with a group called Fabulous Friends this year and the night before I couldn’t sleep. I was too excited and I was also watching that show in the UK called Playing it Straight with a HILARIOUS commentator as well as some Boy Meets Boys. So 10am comes around and I’m showering, 1 and 12 is lineup and I eat some eggs and chicken don my shirt that says Bottoms Love...

Video Response to 5 Reasons Gay Is NOT The New Black by ItsGOTtobegroovy Let me state that I am profoundly surprised in a good way on the video I watched by ItsGOTtobegroovy’s 5 Reasons Gay is NOT The New Black, it wasn’t the same old: You can change gay but not black and they weren’t beaten and whipped. It was a pretty articulate case though I feel it was a way off from looking at the similarities between gay and black oppression from a historic point of view and one of simply: Same oppression, different group. That is the case with the whole gay v. black debate. I want to catch the 5 points that he mentioned in this video because it’s also important to state where I agree and where there’s a bit of disagreement. Oppression is as oppression does This is an interesting point as we’ve often seen the oppressed become the oppressors, when African decolonized we saw a lot of governments spring up and become as corrupt as the European nations they drove out. When The...

I am a young gay black man who had watched a parody of a young man coming out to his Mother the parody is here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HVAtVil3oWo you can pretty much tell it’s a parody especially given the wording that the ‘mother’ uses. However, the reality is that many parents who are religious may try to convince their child that the devil is in them or that gay people are horrible and need to be changed. But what is coming out about? Why is it necessary for those in our lives as gay people to know that we’re gay? What is all that about? Personally, I have always thought that one thing in any relationship that is central is honesty. I remember watching Mambo Italiano and hearing him explain that he wanted to tell his parents because he wanted them to know the real him. One person said to me: Now that I know you’re gay I can get to know who you are fully. It is that spirit which makes coming out so necessary for many people, we don’t desire—most of us to tell...

If Republicans were really Pro Life Companion Video: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PX_KytAMe7Q I’m sick of Pro Life being used to say that a woman doesn’t have the right to her own decisions about her body. They’ve gone through with targeting abortion clinics, killing the doctors, in fact in KS they’re targeting a doctor that didn’t force a 10 year old girl to give birth to her Uncle’s child. They seem to care for the unborn and will ban abortion even in the case of a stillbirth and even if one is medically necessary. Their regard for human life is cruel and they’d let a woman die than have her terminate a pregnancy but I have a bone to pick with Pro Lifers. If you are really pro life Why don’t we see More Spending on Healthcare and Less on Our military, We spend more than our allies and if we cut 10% of our military we could have some mandated relief for schools in urban and poorer areas Give Group Homes expanded programs so that before kids age out of the syst...

Dear Bigot, Let me say this prior to anything, I am not a God hater, I do not hate Christians, I don’t hate the truth. What I do hate is people using misinformation to harm a minority, what I hate is people using junk science to tell people that gay couples can’t raise a child in a great environment. The same people that do that oppose marriage rights oppose civil unions and any kind of relationship recognition. I hate when people compare me loving a man who is close to my age is like marrying a child, pedophiles already marry they just don’t marry children. Necrophiliacs marry but they don’t marry a corpse. Animals can’t be married to humans. Well, one man in KY married his horse but I don’t think it was valid. Polygamous marriages happen but only one partner is recognized legally, like with gay couples it doesn’t stop people from living together they just aren’t recognized as a unit in the eyes of the law. When you place your religious beliefs above my right to live ...

Hello All, This is something I hear a lot of whenever I spot a guy, who many times just happens to be white who is very attractive to me. I have to say that there are a lot of attractive guys out there and when I see one I'm usually like "Helllooo...." I don't know why that is, but I just say that. As I go about my day, I'm riding on my bike seeing different people, and it being summer time, all the hotties are coming out. Some people just 'got it' and some people like me had to work hard to get that summer body--I say that the summer body isn't just worked on in the summer. So, back to the topic. I don't know why I happen to be attracted to white men most, I just am. I have heard a lot of people say to me on facebook and other mediums that: You are ashamed of your race because you're dating a white man....I tell you, if I were ashamed of my race, I would manifest it in other ways than 'rejecting the black man' In fact my sister on...

Hello Everyone, Today I heard about two friends that had been bashed, but they got out okay. However, when the police was called over they said they were off-duty but didn't call police, didn't do anything. They turned on my friends as if they did something to aggravate the men/group of men into attacking them. It's like telling a woman that she deserved to be raped because she was dressed provocatively, only a fool would do so. I could be attacked for simply holding my partner's hand in public or doing anything that would be appropriate if I were with a woman. One episode of Six Feet Under S1E12 A Private Life, shows a man being beaten to death and the perpetrators saying: Read a Bible pervert! Afterward, they talk about being more concerned about HIV/AIDS and not knowing that their son could be killed simply going to the ATM (CeCe McDonald was attacked while trying to go to the store, and many gay men in various states have been attacked leaving a gay bar in thei...

Hello All, Today I will end up doing a Hodge Podge of posts under different topics. I have a lot to talk about so I'm gonna get right to it Addiction as a Disease--Dis/Ease It is no real news to anyone that talks to me a fair amount of time that I have a boyfriend that is an addict. I love him, he's amazing, but when the issue of addiction comes up, I have to say that I get nervous because I sometimes think that oh no, another rehab. I know I've swore him off many times, but it's easier said than done. I really see him as a man that I will spend the rest of my days with (we have to do something about that smoking of his, but I'm sure we'll figure it out) and I want to raise kids and just live an ordinary civic life like everyone else can. So when I think of addiction as a disease, I think of Chlamydia, Herpes (which is not as big a deal as people make it to be) something that needs a cure. But when I think of Addiction as a disease, I have to say I ...